Monday, January 6, 2014
My Services and the Boundaries
With a new year before us I wanted to write a post about the different types of readings that I offer, and how you as a client should look at your readings, not just with me but with any advisor. While I offer many different services I want to discuss the main three services that my clients generally ask for and some boundaries that I have to point out.
Energy work and Spell Casting
Please do not get offended by the context of this post. This is not being written due to any one specific client. This is an accumulation of 10 years working online and finding that I need to practice what I teach and set some boundaries. Now if the shoe fits, by all means please wear it. I do not have “favorite clients” each and every one of you matter to me! Each and every one of you have helped my business grow over the years and I am thankful for you and for that. I have become very close to some of you as friends, however business is business and as a business person with ethics I do not believe it is fair to treat some more special than others in my business work. So with that we have the following:
There is a time and a place for all three services. There are times in your life where you may feel that you are ready for one or need one but before you click the buy it now button consider the following:
Psychic Reading - A psychic reading will give you predictions when possible, timelines for predictions, and answers to your questions, doubts, fears etc. Sometimes within that reading you will also need or ask for some spiritual guidance or advice. This is perfectly fine within the context of the reading and follow up to a reading. This type of session can be done via chat or email. These sessions are best for getting information you need in order to make decisions in your life in the now, however, if you find that you are needing spiritual guidance and advice on an on-going basis, emailing your psychic advisor several times a day or week you should consider spiritual advising. Psychic readings do not come with unlimited follow up questions. Please include all follow up questions to one email and please really think about your questions before hand. Most follow up questions are already answered in the reading you just need to soak it all in and read it more than once. Often times I receive follow up questions within 5 minutes of sending a reading. There is no way a client can truly absorb the reading itself within 5 minutes. It takes longer than that to throughly read one of my detailed email readings. So please do not do a scan of a reading but really let it set in then send your follow up. This is why I allow three to five days for follow up questions to be mailed to me. Remember a reading is a reading, not counseling, nor spiritual advising, you request a reading, I perform that reading, you get a free follow up email. Sending blanket emails for weeks after is not included in your email reading. This takes time away from my ability to focus on other clients readings and have a life of my own. I am sorry if this sounds rude, but often I have found that I am being blast emailed to respond to multiple “follow up” emails and being stalked on my personal facebook page when I am simply, like anyone else, attempting to relax. If you are a friend on facebook but also a client please respect those boundaries. I do not do spiritual work on or via facebook.
Spiritual Advising - This is a service that is geared more toward finding your own personal happiness, well being, and spiritual enlightenment. Much like a therapy session or advice session. You can lean on your advisor for assistance in getting your path balanced and healthy. These types of sessions are best done via chat versus email unless you want to purchase a package that includes the ability to email your advisor on a daily basis. Buying a package like this however is more expensive so you will want to consider just how often you feel you will need your advisor, which is based on how complex your issues are at the time, and how much support you feel you need. This is an excellent service to consider if you feel that you are getting answers but need support putting them into action. Spiritual advising is best purchased using the drop down menu on my website titled Unlimited and Bundled Packages. Feel free to email me for more information on these packages and how you can use them for Spiritual Advising and Psychic Readings combined. More information on these package are also located on my website under the drop down menus.
Energy work and Spell Casting - This is the trickiest of areas to discuss. Each person’s needs are so different. The one thing I want to emphasize the most is that if you are not ready to work on self, do the needed projects, and make necessary transitions and life changes, then please do not request energy work or spell casting. This is a last resort type of service, and you should always work on self before getting involved in spell casting because if you do not, you may find that no amount of casting is going to assist you. Spell casting is not like in the movies, it is not about casting a magic wand or having your caster simply chant from a book of shadows and suddenly life is better. You MUST be fully engaged, fully ready to open yourself up to anything the universe has ready for you to discover. You must be ready to follow directions from the guides, take action, and improve yourself so that you will be granted what you wish for. Sometimes even when you do everything that is asked you may find that the timing is not working perfectly for you. This can mean that there is still more “YOU” work to be done and that is fine we can deal with that as long as you have been active working on your own path. Sometimes a client can be late getting started on their own work that needs to be done to solidify their casting outcome. When we put things off or lay it aside for some unspecified date then we also in return get a delayed outcome on the casting and sometimes we get no results at all. The moral of this lecture is, don’t ask for what you are not personally ready to take accountability for.
In the past I used to do “pre-screenings” (readings) on clients to determine if they are ready for the spell casting request they were asking for. Originally I did this via a paid email reading session. I found most clients did not want to pay for a reading and then “have” to pay for the casting if I found that they were ready. And often times, when I found that they were not ready, the client would feel “cheated” of paying for a service that they were sure would clear them for spell casting take off only to be told that I refused to cast for them. Due to this I began to do these screenings for free, but often times that resulted in the client still being disappointed that I would not cast for them when I was giving a reading (my time and energy) for free. These clients usually do not come back for other services. When I would cast for the clients I found that they often became lazy in doing the work needed to get the results they wanted as I was the only person invested in the outcome of the casting because the clients were not fully aware of the expectations upon them for the result. Trust me, I am pretty clear. Those of you who get readings from me know that I do not pull punches when it comes to telling you what you need to do to clear your own path. Granted there was a monetary investment from clients for the casting itself but even with as much knowledge we have these days on the Internet and from me, regarding spell casting and how it works, people still want to think that as long as someone is doing spell work for them, they can sit back and relax. That is not the case. Then I began to realize that clients are adults who need to be responsible for their own choices, accountable for putting as much into their own healing, casting, energy work, etc as I was for them. This is where we are today. If you have received casting from me as of late then you have been told that you will be expected to do some work. One of the most common questions I get as a spell caster is “how sure are you that this will work?” I am as sure as you are! If you do not feel it will work then ask yourself WHY! If you have been told in readings to do something and have failed to do so then there is your answer. If you are not working to make your own energy the best it can be, your own life situation as balanced as can be, if you are not being honest with yourself about what you are doing, or can do within the timeline of the spell itself then you can’t expect the spell to work. The same goes for energy work for that matter.
With energy work there are often times things that the guides ask for you to do, an “assignment” or “project” just like before going into surgery on your body you may have to fast, or lose weight, or diet properly, or exercise, or rest, etc and so on. You cannot ask your surgeon to do an invasive surgery without being self prepared. You also should not ask your advisor to do invasive energy work on you if you are not ready to take on your share of the responsibility for your own energy. Making excuses, saying “I will get around to it” is not going to get you the results you want, need, or deserve. It will also make you an unhappy client which is unfair to your energy worker as much as it is unfair to yourself. Yes I can align chakras, I can give you a boost, I can clear your energy of unwanted clutter, but if you are told by my guides to do something before, during or after your energy work and you don’t want to do it, put it off, or fail to do it at all, please do not come back to me saying it didn’t work. You already know why. Think about it. All the meditating self help book reading, and proper breathing in the world will not get up and DO the things you need to DO for you. Just do what needs to be done and your energy work will see you through. Yes it is a chicken or the egg scenario and energy work can and will give you the initial boost you need to begin, but not if you come into it with an attitude of resistance.
Yes this has been a bit of a vent, close to a rant, but it needs to be said, not only for me but for all the others who are trying to help people better themselves. There is still a lot of doubt out there about the truth behind energy work, spell casting, reiki healing, chakra alignment etc and so on and there are those who know its benefits who have used it properly. It becomes difficult to dispel doubt but only in those who do not work the system that is trying so hard to work for them.
Granted I too have an accountability in the work that I do. Never will I pass the buck if something I do for you is not working, did not result in the expectations you have if and when you do everything requested of you. And yes over the past 10 years working online and before that the past 20 working locally I have made some refunds for work that I took on thinking that the person was ready when they were not. I have taken accountability for that in the past when I was doing pre-screenings and did not see something I should have seen. To date however I am even more aware of what things can keep the results from coming to pass. I am good about telling clients what they need to do before, during, and post casting or energy work. I will truthfully say to you, all of you reading this, that my percentage of successful casting and energy work is a solid 95% however if you are part of that 5% that things are not working for - please ask yourself how many times I have suggested that you do something to improve your path and you have set it aside or not done it at all. Made excuses for it, even some who have doubted the very thing they have asked for. I am sure a few of you are sitting there wondering if I am writing this to you or for you. I am writing this as I said because of a collective whole over the years. I am fairly descriptive as well so again if the shoe fits yes please wear it.
You do not need to write me asking if I was talking about you or to you because if you feel the need to send me that email - then I probably am. For those of you who the shoe does not fit do not judge the others as with todays “enlightenment phase” it is easy to get stuck in the mind set that the magic wand can be waved and all will be well. This is due to unethical “spiritualists” and psychics out there for the most part, and misleading self help books and some posts on the internet causing people to believe false claims. We are all googling things daily and we tend to be trusting people who want to believe what we read from “specialists”. Just remember not everything you see on the Internet is true! Those who are not working their path may have a reason for not doing so, and sometimes energy work and casting won’t work simply because it is not supposed to, because the universe has another plan for that person.
If you are reading this feeling bad or guilty and that my finger is pointing at you I want you to know I am not angry with you, none of you, I am not frustrated or going to stop helping you but please know that I cannot answer random emails every day unless you have paid for a session. Please know that I have a life outside of what I do, although what I do is a part of my life, if I am on Facebook that means I am taking some ME time and that may even be if you have paid for a service - I am human too and need some time now and then to “decompress”, or say hi to fiends, some of which may even be YOU, or play a game of bejeweled or stalk my kids posts! If you have emailed me and it is not a follow up - a legitimate one - to a reading, or you have not recently requested a new service and are waiting to hear back from me as to when it will be done (this should not happen as I always reply to a paid session even if I am away from home with a response to when you should receive your reading) then please, be patient I will get back to you but it may not be as quickly as I would reply to you if you had follow up to your reading, or are requesting a new service. That may sound like I only place importance on those who are paying but my business life is business and it is only fair that if a person has paid for a service that they GET service. Everyone who knows me knows I do reply to ALL email inquires and am quite generous with my time in helping you on your paths even weeks after a reading I will respond without a payment for a service. I LOVE updates from clients, and I care about your progress but please don’t try to sneak a question that is obviously a reading question in with an email saying “Hi just wanted to update you”. That is rude and it always humors me when people do this because if I can’t see through that then why would that person even trust me to do a reading for them. Yes I have catered to this behavior in the past especially for long time clients but its a new year and I have a new way. Those emails will not get replies.
So for those of you who are PREVIOUS CLIENTS ONLY, and have tolerated this post feel free to let me know you read it by sending me one question that I am happy to answer for FREE as a happy new year gift. Oh, but please be respectful that it is ONE question and not one sentence with five questions loaded into it. :)
Thank you and I hope your new year is going well so far!
Posted by Joely Smith at 3:57 PM