Monday, June 25, 2012
So my family began to watch the sitcom “How I Met Your Mother” from beginning to end as we never really got into it back when it first started airing. After seeing a few re-runs we decided we loved it and began to watch from the beginning. The main character, although they all seem to share the spotlight, but the character the show is mostly about is what brought me to write this article. His name is Ted. Ted is a true romantic by all means of the word. Every relationship he gets involved in is with “THE ONE” or at least he believes she could be “the one” and treats the relationship as such from the get go. Yes, he sounds too good to be true lol but that is not the point. Ted, feels that you never know who “the one” is going to be, and that even if she is not “the one” through meeting her he may meet the real person who is to be “the one”.
Often times the story line of the show leads us to understand how the butterfly effect is always in play. If one thing had not happened, it would not bring us to our eventual outcome that is the destiny. I have written on this very topic many times in many ways via many articles. But still, this is not the point I am wanting to make.
The point I am wanting to make with this article is how do we know when to follow a path or end it? How do we know when we are supposed to keep trying with someone or let it go? A lot of my readings are on this very topic! Many people ask me “Should I avoid him or is he part of my path? Is he worth my time?” This is not exclusive to women asking either. Plenty of men ask the same questions about us ladies!
So should you keep moving forward even if you feel red flags about someone? Should you throw in the towel early on and save yourself time, energy, effort, and maybe even a broken heart?
The question then becomes what if you miss something you were supposed to learn because you left too soon? What if you were supposed to meet someone through the time knowing them? What if ....
Now I by no means ever want anyone to stay in a relationship or continue dating someone who is rude, abusive, or has serious issues of their own. There is no point in that! Sometimes however it is possible that giving up too soon could mean missing a step with someone else. However my true belief is that if you are “destined” to meet someone you will, eventually, regardless of how many steps it takes to get to them! When one window closes, another one opens up, and vice versa. Nothing is set in stone, and relationships can come and go but if by ending something too soon we “miss out” on something that something will come to you another way in its own due time. It may make it take longer to get there but in that time also you will learn more lessons from others, in other situations, which can only add to the benefit of meeting “the one” later in life rather than earlier. So really you can’t go wrong.
Granted you may be able to side step some tough lessons with others along the way if you duck out sooner, rather than later. Perhaps save yourself a few broken hearts, or frustrations even but then what have you truly gained? What has side stepping anything really ever got someone? I find that taking the hard road is more often beneficial in the long run rather than the easy path as we learn so much more in the collective and the more we learn in our lives the more we are ready for the right person when they come along! Again, I want to state firmly that there are situations you must get the heck out of as soon as possible in order for self perseverance so use of good old fashioned common sense is in order.
Of course contacting your friendly empath can help but please be open to hearing the hard messages as sometimes you won’t get the answer you hope for. At times when I read the energy of people I clearly see the relationship won’t end in a way that the client hopes to hear. That it is not going to be the happily ever after they desire or that the other person is going to cling when really the client hopes they will let go. Either way there are positives to the eventual outcome that I can see and relate to the client, yet usually, almost always, the client wants to only know about the right now or the very soon to come. That is fine because that is what is happening and what we should most focus on as we live in the now, however heeding the long term benefits sure does not hurt. You may even ask your empath what, if any, the long term benefits are! While they may not be able to give you exact details they should be able to tell you if there is any sort of spiritual reason why this person came into your life at this time. Remember almost everyone who plays more than a slight role in your life IS in-fact SOME kind of soul mate on SOME level if even on a small level! Everyone we encounter, more than just on a one time passing, has some play in our eventual life path outcome! We are all soul brothers and sisters in this world together. So even when you feel you are “wasting” time in a situation, a relationship, on whatever path you are on be that a work path, a love path, etc there is a reason for it!
Something to consider is when getting your next relationship reading, along with all of your questions you ask your empath, psychic, spiritual guide, etc, add in one more question:
If he/she is not “the one” does he/she play any role, directly or subtly on meeting “the one”?
I promise you that more often than not the answer is going to be yes. There is a prediction for you!
Posted by Fashion Beyond Forty at 6:29 PM
Sunday, June 24, 2012
Every psychic, empath, clairvoyant, etc., that I know tunes in differently. No two people who receive messages connect, or tune in, exactly the same way. For some, it is a matter of meditation, for some it is as something that comes over them like a wave, for others they can tune in on demand. Some intuitives will shield themselves with a barrier of energy so that they do not absorb the energy of others when they are carrying out their own daily routines, while others who are developing their gifts may not want to do this. Sometimes even with putting up that protective barrier, some messages are so intense they must be heard and will be heard regardless.
For some intuitives, messages, and energy, come at them like a tidal wave, taking over their own personal thoughts, feelings, and needs, this can make it difficult for them to function in the outside world and thus they prefer less of a social life and spend much of their time at home. While any intuitive can learn to protect themselves so they can carry out the most essential activities, it can become difficult to use energy to carry out the protection itself at times.
Some intuitives like to listen to music to help them focus and tune in while others prefer complete silence, some light candles, or burn incense, or use crystals. It is not always something so mysterious or moviesque however, while we may all have at one time thought of a psychic as a turban wearing gypsy or mystic, most of us are average, every day people, and while I would love to be able to claim gypsy heritage, I cannot. Sometimes the most unusual things can help an intuitive tune in and focus! I find personally some of my most focused times come form the most normal activities such as showering or playing a game of bejeweled on facebook! For me, sometimes tuning out is what helps me tune in the most!
I am always tickled when someone alludes to me that I should have seen something coming, or that I should have known, regardless of what they are referring to. Being an intuitive, psychic, empath, etc., does not mean that you will go through life foreseeing every single circumstance in your own path ahead. If that were the case we all may as well throw ourselves off the nearest bridge as life would become terribly dull and pointless. Now yes there are multitudes of times that I personally get messages that I did not ask to receive from strangers on the street, the woman in the clothing shop, or the man at the hardware store, and so on, but for the majority of the time I would need to tune in or focus on something in order to get messages from my guides, or from my intuition. So as I am out and about living my life, enjoying my free time, spending time with family, or whatever it is I do as a human being, I am not “tuned in” and honestly I can be quite ditzy and spaced out. That is another side effect at times of the intuitive! Even though one may not be attempting to focus on energy around them to receive messages the energy that is naturally taken in or absorbed by the intuitive seems to over take them and almost give a spinning head feeling, or a surreal take on things. I often find it difficult to focus on shopping, finding specific items, everything seems to fade together and then into the background. It is almost the exact opposite effect of tuning it - it is more like a total mental haze and tuning out.
As for me, since I can only speak for myself, I need personal clarity in order to tune in and do an accurate reading. For this reason you won’t see me online 24/7 rip roaring and ready to do readings! I only do readings when I am in a place where I can give a client my complete focus. In my personal life more often than not I am turned out, relaxing, and allowing life to flow as it may. I prefer not to be a sponge absorbing the energy of others every where I go as it is too taxing on my energy and literally makes me become ill. Sure, I get signs, signals, and have my intuitive streaks just as you do, just as any person does, if I wanted to take those signs into a focus I could, but often times it is not necessary, and truly not worth the energy it would take to do so. I think often people assume or believe that intuitives automatically just “know” when really it is not that way for most of us, some do, but not most. Sure we get that initial feeling, that gut feeling, intuition, etc, the same intuition most every one experiences, however to plan one’s life on intuition alone can be risky. For me, I like to truly tune in when things matter, but when things really do not matter all that much I prefer to just live my life and let whatever is going to happen simply happen! In other words, when I am out shopping with my daughter, or enjoying a movie with family, I do not “know” what is going to happen next, nor do I want to know! That would make for a very predictable and boring existence! Usually its far more fun to live one’s life with mystery and surprise! This is one reason why I do not post much on my facebook. In my three decades of doing professional readings, and with social media more recently in the forefront of our society, I have been “called out” many times for stating very normal human things such as when something has happened to me while out and about. There is always someone who suggests that I should have seen it coming, or I should have known. Its cute, of course, and I chuckle, but deep down it is insulting and dehumanizing to me. It implies that as a professional intuitive I should not have my personal moments of wonderment, quizzical feelings, or even being puzzled by the way our society is. It makes me feel as though I should be responsible for knowing every fine tuned detail that is going on around me, and while I could take time away from my life, my family, my daughter and say “hey sweetie, mama needs to sit here and focus a few moments while our ice cream melts” ... I refuse. Just as the psychologist may not want to self diagnose a mental disorder, or a doctor would go to another doctor for medical care, or a fireman would call the fire department if his house caught ablaze.
Tuning in is truly a craft, a skill, and a gift that is developed over time. Intuition is natural to all of us, and the professional empath, or psychic has developed their intuition to a fined tuned and well oiled machine but there are so many different kinds of psychic ability and each one takes different sorts of focus. To really even get a grasp of what it takes for one psychic to tune in would mean you first have to know what their specific psychic skills are. The clairaudient may tune in differently than the clairvoyant, a medium may channel energy differently than a crystal reader, the list goes on and on. How one tunes in becomes a very personal and cherished thing, and is not something that can be offered up with a blanket explanation for every psychic out there.
For me, first I need to have my house in order, literally, I can’t focus without cleaning up first. I also like to have my pets fed, watered, and give them some love before getting into my work day. I need to be sure my family is set for the day, yeah I suppose that is a little control freakish of me lol but I want to be sure my work is not distracting from energy I should be and would rather be spending on them, no offense to my clients. Lighting is important to me, if day time I prefer natural light with window shades open so the sun can stream in but I am a self admitted night owl. For that reason you will find me far more active in the late after noon and into the wee hours of the night doing readings! Every morning I do a grounding focus so that my energy does not get scattered though out the day. Between each reading I like to cleanse my energy by doing a short deep breathing meditation. This allows my energy to be ready for the next client without residual energy from the one before it funneling over. I need to feel healthy, so diet and some amount of exercise helps a lot! I tend to work a little at some point every day but you will usually only find me very active about three or four days during the week. I rejuvenate my energy by spending time reading, watching television, or doing every day routine chores and errands that many may consider a hassle but for me is enlightening and entertaining as it gets me away from the computer, from behind the desk, and helps me feel normal.
So, I hope this helps a little in understanding how it is for an intuitive and that no two are exactly the same. I know it does not clear up much because there is no blanket that covers every intuitive, and that may be disconcerting, however if you are curious how your favorite intuitives tune in, don’t be afraid to ask! Most of us are more than happy to tell you!
Posted by Fashion Beyond Forty at 3:03 PM